Hypnosis Training Video Podcast #184: The Do's and Don’ts During the Pre-Hypnosis Interview

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1. Steve R. says

   August 14, 2010 at 1:47 PM

   Hello Cal another great podcast. Two things you mentioned I'd like to expand upon.

   First is that, since learning from your other educational material, I always have taken your advice to heart of helping the client into a frame of reference where there is nothing fundamentally "wrong" with them. For example, at some point in the AR, I like to have the "grown-up" transmit the suggestion to the LO that it is completely understandable that certain negative feelings and emotions would have been felt at difficult unpleasant events, so that the LO does not feel bad about feeling bad! I take it a bit further by having the addtl suggestion transmitted that it would be a greater cause for concern if a child in an unstable, dangerous, or frightening situation did not feel some sort of negative affect then --- that might mean something was very wrong with them in a pathological sense. It is neat to observe an often palpable sense of relief from the client once they respond to this suggestion that they are giving to themselves. Once they internalize the experienced realization that their circumstantial response of feeling helpless, scared or nervous was understandable, then it seems a lot easier for them to let go of those residual emotions (esp. related to uncertainty and confusion) and self-identifying labels of "being" a helpless, nervous or fearful person.

   Second thing I want to mention is your point about not telling the client about specific techniques ahead of time. I think this is a good idea but most especially when it comes to the phases involving Forgiveness. I never want to even bring up the concept of forgiveness, or even use that word, until the very last moment, after laying proper groundwork to make sure it is just about the inevitable choice of the client to forgive. I think if anyone were to tell the client: "OK, in today's session, we are going to forgive the person who ______ you", that is setting everyone up for failure. Forgiveness is such a tainted and misunderstood concept, and letting the client know too early, will only allow them to prepare a million and one reasons not to forgive, based on those misunderstandings. That doesn't help anyone.

   Anyway, thanks for another great podcast!

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2. Susan Mundy says

   July 7, 2015 at 11:30 PM

   My second viewing of this great episode Cal and I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate it.

   I have it all down pat really...except for the last part!! By the way, you have me in fits of giggles with your examples and advice of "don't do that" etc... 😂

   That's my problem, when a client wants to or demands to know, what I'm going to do, or how I'm going to do, I still feel a little trapped as to how much to tell them, especially about AR. But, I will simply follow your advice & just work on building hope & focus on the benefits they want.

   I must say that I disagree with Steve's view on discussing forgiveness with the client though. For me personally, I have found that most clients want to forgive, and know how important it is to forgive (when explained it is for them, not the one to be forgiven) but simply don't know or believe that it is possible to do. But, I guess everyone is different, so perhaps I've yet to encounter a client with that strong negative view on the forgiveness work.

   Thanks for all you do.
   Susan

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